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Question 10.6:
But I still want to intermarry? Do you know of a Rabbi that performs intermarriages?


Sigh. As Eliot Shimoff wrote:

I do not like this thread, it's dead
I do not like it, mark it "read"

I could not, would not, on the Net
I shall not, must not, on a bet
Decimal, octal, or binary
It isn't good to intermarry

I would not co-officiate
I wouldn't even approve a date!
I must not officiate-co
Absolutely, NO NO NO

I don't approve of marriage, inter
Summer, fall, spring, or winter
I know deep down I should hit K
Kill this thread, and save the day

I don't approve of intermarriage
But here is comes, our next net barrage. :-)

If you really insist on going through with the intermarriage after everything you have read and you are in the United States, Frank F. Smith wrote on soc.culture.jewish that you might want to contact The Rabbinic Center for Research and Counseling ( in Westfield, NJ (908-233-2288 (automated message); 908-233-0419 (real person), 908-233-6459 (FAX)). Founded in 1970, the Rabbinic Center for Research and Counseling is the first organization established to promote research on intermarriage and to serve the needs of intermarrying and intermarried couples. The Rabbinic Center provides a list of rabbis who officiate at intermarriages, conducts and promotes research on intermarriage, offers premarital and marital therapy for intermarried couples and their families, and presents a variety of programs specifically geared to the needs of intermarried couples. Their list of rabbis is available at To obtain the list by mail, send your name and address with a check for $20 to the Rabbinic Center, 128 East Dudley Avenue, Westfield, New Jersey 07090. In addition to the list of over 290 rabbis, you will receive some articles on intermarriage and on the programs the Center offers for intermarried couples. The list will be sent by return mail. Please add $10 if you want the list sent by fax or email and add $20 for Federal Express. For telephone information on the List of Rabbis Who Officiate at Intermarriages, call (908) 233-2288. Note: All rabbis on the list are members either of the Central Conference of American Rabbis or of the Reconstructionist Rabbinical Association; the list is updated monthly, and that some rabbis have conditions under which the officiate (such as raising the children as Jewish).

The FAQ is a collection of documents that is an attempt to answer questions that are continually asked on the soc.culture.jewish family of newsgroups. It was written by cooperating laypeople from the various Judaic movements. You should not make any assumption as to accuracy and/or authoritativeness of the answers provided herein. In all cases, it is always best to consult a competent authority--your local rabbi is a good place to start.

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